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sunnylea57 posted:

Paul Barrere, 71, of complications from liver disease. 

Guitarist, singer and songwriter with Little Feat. He joins the late, great Lowell George and drummer Richie Hayward. 

Paul wrote a number of Little Feat’s songs including All That You Dream, Feats Don’t Fail Me Now, Romance Dance, Skin It Back and Time Loves A Hero, and sang quite a few of them. 

Bummer. Loved Waiting for Columbus live album.

thistlintom posted:
sunnylea57 posted:

Paul Barrere, 71, of complications from liver disease. 

Guitarist, singer and songwriter with Little Feat. He joins the late, great Lowell George and drummer Richie Hayward. 

Paul wrote a number of Little Feat’s songs including All That You Dream, Feats Don’t Fail Me Now, Romance Dance, Skin It Back and Time Loves A Hero, and sang quite a few of them. 

Bummer. Loved Waiting for Columbus live album.

Serious bummer.  Loved that album as well, thistlintom.  I was an unpaid usher for the 3 shows at the Lisner Auditorium in August of !977.  The boys practically burned that place down.

PH

purplehaze posted:
thistlintom posted:
sunnylea57 posted:

Paul Barrere, 71, of complications from liver disease. 

Guitarist, singer and songwriter with Little Feat. He joins the late, great Lowell George and drummer Richie Hayward. 

Paul wrote a number of Little Feat’s songs including All That You Dream, Feats Don’t Fail Me Now, Romance Dance, Skin It Back and Time Loves A Hero, and sang quite a few of them. 

Bummer. Loved Waiting for Columbus live album.

Serious bummer.  Loved that album as well, thistlintom.  I was an unpaid usher for the 3 shows at the Lisner Auditorium in August of !977.  The boys practically burned that place down.

PH

Wow, that would have been phenomenal. Probably my biggest musical regret: I wish I'd seen them while Lowell was still alive but I'm not sure if they ever played in Toronto in the 70s. First time I saw them was in '89 - the first tour with Craig Fuller. Not even close to the same thing, but it was still a thrill for me.

The son of friends of ours was memorialized tonight after taking his own like last Thursday at age 22. He had struggled with mental health for a few years; his parents were quite active in trying to help him. Brian’s mom Tina delivered a wonderfully loving tribute to him - my wife and I were stunned at how she kept it together. While there were some very touching words said, it’s impossible for me to imagine the pain felt by our friends and their surviving son, and how they get some normalcy back in their lives. It frustrates me now knowing what to say to help them in any meaningful way. 

RIP Brian. 

billhike posted:

The son of friends of ours was memorialized tonight after taking his own like last Thursday at age 22. He had struggled with mental health for a few years; his parents were quite active in trying to help him. Brian’s mom Tina delivered a wonderfully loving tribute to him - my wife and I were stunned at how she kept it together. While there were some very touching words said, it’s impossible for me to imagine the pain felt by our friends and their surviving son, and how they get some normalcy back in their lives. It frustrates me now knowing what to say to help them in any meaningful way. 

RIP Brian. 

Bill,

so sorry to hear this, it is a shame that someone so young has taken their life.  The pain and helplessness that is felt by those suffering from depression is hard to understand by those who have not been afflicted by it.  I imagine that those around the person who took their life have a hard time understanding what this person was facing and may feel some guilt in not saving this person, but it is not their fault.  My condolences to all.   I think the best you can do is say you are sorry for their loss and that you are there if they want to talk.

Bill, that's awful and terribly sad. As Thistlintom said, I think the best you can do is to let them know that you care and that you're there for them if they need help with anything or a sympathetic ear. Give them space, but also check in with them once in awhile. 

I'm going to quote a good friend who recently gave me this piece of wisdom (gained from personal experience): 

The last thing I learned is how very quickly people move on and forget how much you’re still hurting. Weeks, months, years later, precious few even remember what happened and when. Which hurts a little but again, grief if so intensely personal and is so different for everyone. Unless you’re highly expressive about your feelings, people just don’t know where you are in the process. 

Which is why I suggest doing the occasional check-in. Just knowing that you're still thinking about them can be a tremendous help.

 

Divot, our 12 1/2 year old greyhound.  We put her to sleep last night after discovering cancer on her spleen and in her intestines.  It only seemed to bother her this past week.  It can be hard to know when dogs are ill, they are so stoic.  We rescued her from the track at 2 years old, she never raced, she had a mind of her own.  She had a great life but we are going to miss her.

thistlintom posted:

Divot, our 12 1/2 year old greyhound.  We put her to sleep last night after discovering cancer on her spleen and in her intestines.  It only seemed to bother her this past week.  It can be hard to know when dogs are ill, they are so stoic.  We rescued her from the track at 2 years old, she never raced, she had a mind of her own.  She had a great life but we are going to miss her.

Very sorry to read this, TT. I’m glad she was found by your family.

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