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I have taken glasses to both restaurants and to friends homes. I have asked the host of the party if they minded that I brought my own glasses, and no one really seems to care. They know I am a wine freak, and take the drinking of wine seriously, so they sort of expect the unexpected. As for reastaurants, I would be surprised it the wiater, wine guy, or host said anything to you for bringing your own stems. They may think you are a bit odd, but everyone seems to get over it after about 5-10 minutes. I just make an announcement, telling the hostess or host and the waiter that I have my own stemware and wine, and they say, "no problem, would you like me to open you wine now, or later." The first few times, I felt a little awkward, but now it's no big deal.
I have never brought stemware to a restaurant.

I have eaten dinner with others who have, and I certainly appreciate drinking wine out of the nice stems rather than the clunky restaurant glasses. I understand why people bring their own stems, and I don't begrudge them that right.

That being said, I don't think I could ever bring stemware myself. There just seems to be something a little weird about it. I like to eat on fine bone china and with sterling silver utensils, should I bring them to a restaurant? Should I bring a dry-aged steak to Mortons and ask them to cook it instead of their wet-aged steak? I know that my point is a bit extreme, but for some reason I don't have a problem with bring a bottle of my own wine, but I do have a problem bringing stemware.

Maybe if I did, I would quickly get over my hang-up about it.
Originally posted by Board-O:
Originally posted by Rothko:
There just seems to be something a little weird about it.

Oh, I've been called a lot worse! Big Grin

Board-O, I know that you are a proponent for bringing your own stemware, and I have personally benefited from that, when we have eaten together. And certainly I do not mean anything negative about people who bring their own stems.

The weirdness exists only in my own mind.
Ok, part two of this question should be:
If you bring your own stems and byob, how does this effect the restaurants corkage policy?
It's got to be a lot tougher for them to do their song and dance about washing and breakage. Can they still justify charging $25 for just opening it? That works out to about $5 a twist, and now you're talking relative MLB-size overpayment for services rendered.
I have often brought my own stemware, and it is typically met first with curiosity, then welcomed by the restaurant. I don't feel in the least bit strange about doing this, after all - it's that many fewer glasses they need to wash, risk breakage, etc. However, I have never exected the establishment to wash my glasses - that would be way too much, imo.
There are quite a few BYO's in my area (NJ) so I usually keep two 2-packs of Riedel O's in my trunk. Not my first choice for stemware, but often 100 times better than the $.25 glasses at some of these places.

I am a regular at some of these places and when coming in with a larger group (6-10) I usually have multiple decanters (small Riedel Vivants from Target) along with my 8 pack of knock-off O's. At one place the wait staff always rinses them for us and we tip accordingly. This is an improvement over the full sized decanters and Spiegelau stems we used to walk in with!

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