Napacat whether or not you have a homosexual bone in your body I'm not going to call you a f@g. In much the same way I'm not going to call bman a n!gger, Purplehaze a retard, or TheOldMan a wop. It doesn't really matter if one is black (he happens not to be), one is autistic or otherwise mentally challenged (he certainly isn't) and one is Italian (I don't believe he is). I just don't use those words for anyone. In my head or out of my mouth or with my fingers on a keyboard.
"Pocahontas" is no less a slur than any of those other ones I typed above (which you hopefully cringed while reading). It has no bearing on her ancestry, it's a slur.
All of us here need to be better than that, you included.
Fair post Rob...point taken.